As I continue down this path, I find myself recognizing negative thoughts as they happen and trying to put a positive spin on them. It's difficult to do, because I'm starting to realize how negative I was (am) and how many things made me upset or annoyed. Even small things like a slow driver would put me in a not so great mood. To try and fix this, I've found myself trying to justify why people are doing what they're doing. That person's driving really slowly? Maybe they're uncomfortable driving fast. Someone snapped at me? Maybe they're going through a stressful time and it's nothing personal against me. A friend made a sarcastic comment? Maybe they're just trying to have fun and there isn't any truth in the statement.
It's difficult to do this, because I see myself giving up the negative that I've held onto for so long. It's losing a piece of me that I've always had. But I notice that as I've started justifying peoples' actions (in a way that may be completely false) I've been able to let go of the anger and annoyance that I've usually held onto. It's been nice. When stresses have been getting high at robotics meetings, I'm able to see why people are getting frustrated and once I do that, I can forgive them. I'm not holding things against people and I feel better for it.
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